Unhappiness Stems From Exclusive Civilization Systems

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Yicheng · Nov 28, 2024
The design of a civilization system is closely tied to the values within society. For the current human civilization, the key to progress lies in offering equal love and care for all. 

Happiness is a universal goal and a driving force for creation. Yet, in a world shaped by complex systems and rapid technological change, many of us often feel isolated, anxious, and powerless. This is not due to personal failure. Instead, it results from a societal system that opens doors for some while closing them for others.

The design of a civilization system is closely tied to the values within society. For the current human civilization, the key to progress lies in offering equal love and care for all. 

Yicheng Commonweal is actively working to ensure that everyone experiences both a sense of existence and participation, while enjoying the happiness and fulfillment of a civilized society.

I. The Root Causes of Exclusion in the Civilization System

1. The Alienation of Standardized Rules

Current civilization systems often rely on explicit or covert rules to maintain order. These rules may increase efficiency in the short term, but they tend to suppress diversity and individuality. Rigid rules often force people to adapt to the system, changing who they are in the process. Those who can’t meet the standards are often left out of the pursuit of happiness.

For example, many education systems still use standardized exams to measure students’ abilities. They overlook values like emotion and creativity, which can’t be quantified. The system sacrificed the potential of many kids and caused the overall creativity of future society to decline dramatically.

2. Unequal Distribution of Resources

In many societies, resource distribution is claimed to be “fair.” But in reality, the system frequently favors those who are already in a stronger position. While policies might talk about fairness, they often fail to address deeper, structural issues like the historical inequalities faced by certain groups. Simply providing equal resources doesn’t solve the problem if no targeted interventions are made.

Take the widening wealth gap, for example. Or how top-tier education and healthcare are concentrated in certain areas. These issues have put many people at a disadvantage in the race for success. People marginalized by the system gradually lose their chance to pursue happiness. Struggling to meet basic needs, they are unable to nurture a sense of well-being.

Despite living on the same planet, people in different countries and regions experience vast disparities in living standards. People in developed countries can easily access benefits that others in underdeveloped areas have to work hard for. 

This disparity stems from differences in societal civilization systems. Resources tend to concentrate in more advanced systems, creating a significant injustice for those in less developed regions. Without systemic intervention or self-help efforts, this inequality will be difficult to resolve.

3. The Alienation of Technological Progress

Technology has made our civilization systems more efficient, but it has also created new forms of isolation. Take artificial intelligence and automation, for example. While they have increased productivity, they are going to replace many traditional jobs. As a result, many workers feel a loss of value and a fear of losing their jobs.

At the same time, social media and digital technologies, while connecting people from around the world, often make us feel lost in opinions and attacks from various sides. In this digital age, it is harder to form real emotional connections, and this erodes our sense of happiness.

4. The Suppression of Cultural Diversity

In modern societies, dominant cultures shape the civilization system, often overlooking the needs of diverse cultures. Groups that don’t align with mainstream values or lifestyles face marginalization and, in some cases, discrimination. Immigrants, ethnic minorities, and gender minorities often find themselves labeled as outsiders. Their sense of identity and happiness is continually suppressed.

II. The Far-reaching Impact of Exclusion on Happiness

1. A Crisis in Mental Health

People who are excluded often experience feelings of loneliness and helplessness, which can lead to a mental health crisis. The widespread rise in depression and anxiety is partly due to the civilization system’s failure to address individual psychological needs. 

When individuals are forced to fit into a system that doesn’t admit their values as a person, their mental resilience weakens. This decline in well-being can result in burnout, social anxiety, autism, and even conditions like agoraphobia or manic depression.

2. Indifferent Interpersonal Relationships

In today’s fast-paced world, the drive for efficiency often comes at the cost of real human connections. With everyone relying more on digital communication, there’s little time left for face-to-face interactions that truly build relationships. 

As a result, emotional connections become rarer, and our sense of happiness starts to weaken. People become more guarded in their social interactions, and the overall atmosphere feels colder. In fact, “Don’t bother others” has become the unspoken rule of the day.

3. A Loss of Sense

Happiness is not just about material wealth—it also needs a deeper sense of meaning. However, current value systems focus more on external markers of success, like wealth and status, while neglecting the nurturing and appreciation of inner values. Many civilization systems are built on this collective value system.

As a result, those who feel excluded from this system lose their sense of control over life. They struggle to find personal meaning, drifting into a “vacuum” of happiness—lost, confused, and uncertain of where to turn next.

II. Breaking the Cycle of Exclusion: The Path to True Happiness

1. People-oriented Institutional Reform

Civilization systems need to shift from an “efficiency-first” approach to a “people-oriented” one. For example, education systems should focus more on personalized development, honoring each child’s unique talents. Healthcare systems should aim for universal coverage, easing the health anxieties of vulnerable groups. True happiness can only be achieved when institutional designs meet the basic needs of every individual.

2. Creating an Inclusive Culture

Civilization systems need to embrace diverse cultural expressions and respect different lifestyles. Through legislation and social advocacy, we can reduce discrimination and prejudice against vulnerable groups. Cultural events and community building can foster greater understanding and empathy between groups, allowing everyone to feel the warmth of acceptance.

3. Reshaping the People-Technology Connection

The role of technological progress should be to foster human well-being, not deepen exclusion. For example, as digital technologies are introduced, we need to ensure they are accessible to the elderly and low-income groups. 

Similarly, in the case of artificial intelligence, it’s crucial to implement policies that protect workers’ rights and create pathways for reemployment for those whose jobs are lost. Otherwise, the wealth gap will continue to grow and aggravate inequality.

4. Redefining Happiness and Success

Happiness shouldn’t be defined by wealth, status, or material success. True fulfillment comes from pursuing personal values beyond external achievements. In a world where burnout and mental health struggles are common, society needs to shift focus from external success to internal well-being.

Through education and media, we can help people see that happiness is about meaningful connections, a sense of community, and harmony with nature. The diverse definitions of happiness in society can reduce external stress and peer pressure, allowing them to embrace a wider range of lifestyles and cultures.

III. Conclusion

The unhappiness many people feel comes from being excluded by the civilization systems. To address the problem, it is necessary to reconsider the underlying values and design of these systems in our society. Instead of rigid rules, we need to prioritize inclusivity. Happiness is not an unattainable goal, but a right for everyone.

When the value of collective well-being is advocated and practiced in the systems, people will find a sense of belonging and meaning. Only then can we experience true joy and embrace endless progress in our society.

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“拼爹”:实际上是一场“社会性死亡游戏”

Daohe · Oct 24, 2024

漫谈“拼爹”(一) “拼爹”的怪异性与普遍性,是社会发展不平衡的表现。在漫长的历史中,在全球范围内,“拼爹”现象无处不在,越来越多的人发现,“拼爹”——即依靠家庭背景、父辈资源获得优越生活条件或职业机会——已成为许多年轻人成功的捷径。而且,在社会缺乏上升空间、经济下行时,“拼爹”现象更加凸显。这种现象让人无奈,也揭示出深层次的社会结构问题。从政治、经济、民主、自由、生活和未来等多个角度来看,“拼爹”实际上是一场社会性死亡游戏,削弱了社会流动性,侵蚀了社会公平,限制了个人与社会的长期发展潜力,有着深远的危机。 “拼爹”是政治的权力世袭与社会流动的堵塞 在政治层面,“拼爹”现象反映出权力和资源的代际传承,使社会流动变得越来越困难,少数精英家族垄断了政治权力和社会资源。结果,大多数普通家庭的孩子即便再努力,也很难打破权力的垄断格局,导致社会阶层逐渐固化。 这种现象进一步削弱了政治体制的民主性。真正的民主应该是基于公平竞争和机会均等的制度,而“拼爹”的盛行使得民主变得形式化,公共资源的分配更倾向于那些有背景、有关系的群体,普通民众的声音被边缘化,政治参与的意义逐渐丧失。 “拼爹”造成贫富差距的加大和经济活力下降 在经济领域,“拼爹”导致贫富差距加大。富裕家庭的子女能够通过父辈的关系和财富轻松进入顶尖学校、占据高薪职位,而普通家庭的孩子则需要花费更多的时间和精力才能获得同样的机会。这种资源的不公平分配,导致社会阶层的代际传递更加明显,经济的不平等也愈发加剧。 这种现象不仅仅体现在个体的经济机会上,还影响到整个社会的创新能力。当大多数资源被掌握在少数精英手中时,创新和创业的机会将更难被普通人所获得。没有新的经济力量进入市场,社会的整体经济活力就会逐渐下降,经济发展进入“死亡循环”。 “拼爹”导致民主的公民权利弱化与制度的失衡 “拼爹”现象还反映出一种对民主理念的背离。民主的核心在于公平竞争和公民平等的机会,但当背景、关系成为决定成功的主要因素时,民主精神逐渐被侵蚀。社会的权力结构被“拼爹”的现象所强化,使得原本应平等开放的社会机会,转变为有限资源的争夺战。与此同时,公民对制度的信任感也在削弱。没有背景的家庭对现行体制感到无力,认为无论多么努力都难以改变命运。这种失望情绪不仅会导致对民主制度的冷漠,还可能引发社会的不稳定,加剧对抗情绪,破坏社会的和谐与安全。 “拼爹”是自由的选择幻象与现实的束缚 “拼爹”看似为孩子们提供了一条成功的捷径,但实际上却制造了一种“选择的幻象”。真正的自由与独立是每个人能够通过自身的才能和努力去追求梦想,而非依赖家庭背景去获得不公平的优势。如果竞争是公平的,每个人都愿意堂堂正正地为成功付出努力,社会能够肯定真正有才能的人,从而形成正向的循环。 而在这样的环境中,成功的人总会被质疑能力是否与其地位匹配,他们进入了一场社会性死亡的游戏。有背景的人常常赢得不光彩,自身的成功缺乏真实的基础,如果家道中落,他们的成功也随时会被夺走。这种虚假的优越感不仅无法带来真正的内心满足,还容易在遇到挑战时迅速瓦解。当个人面临需要独立解决的问题时,家庭背景再强大也无法替代个人的能力和素质。而对于家境普通的年轻人而言,这种不公平的竞争让他们失去了上升的空间,因此社会中躺平文化盛行。 “拼爹”:未来的代际贫困风险与社会发展的停滞 “拼爹”文化的流行不仅仅是当代社会的问题,它还为未来带来了显著的风险。首先,代际贫困的恶性循环可能进一步加剧。由于家庭背景在社会资源分配中的重要性不断增强,那些出身普通甚至贫困家庭的孩子将面临越来越大的生存压力。他们的机会受到父辈资源的限制,难以获得高质量的教育和社会关系,进而在社会竞争中处于劣势。随着这种趋势的持续,贫富之间的鸿沟只会变得更加不可逾越,代际贫困的风险日益上升。 与此同时,这种文化还可能导致社会发展的停滞。社会进步依赖于创新和变革,而这些往往来自于多元化的思想和新生力量的崛起。当“拼爹”成为普遍规则时,社会流动性下降,新兴人才的机会被剥夺,创新精神可能因此而衰退。缺乏来自底层和多元背景的声音,社会发展的动力将逐渐被扼杀,甚至可能出现整体停滞的局面。 “拼爹”:生活的幸福感迷失与个体价值的贬低 从生活的角度来看,“拼爹”的文化也影响着人们的幸福感和个体价值。孩子们在“拼爹”的文化压力下,不再关注自身的兴趣和梦想,而是被迫依赖家庭背景去获得认可和成就感。这种依赖性使得他们无法真正享受奋斗带来的成就感和个人成长的乐趣。他们不仅要承受社会对成功的高要求,还可能因为自身无法与他人相比的背景而产生自卑感。面对家庭背景上的不公平,年轻人很容易产生挫败感和无力感,甚至陷入自我否定的状态。 此外,这种文化还改变了人们对成功的定义。社会越来越倾向于用“家庭背景”的高低来评判一个人的价值,而不是个人的才华和努力。这种价值观的扭曲削弱了人们的主观幸福感,使得个体在追求生活意义的过程中迷失方向。 “拼爹”:自由的隐形枷锁与选择的受限 “拼爹”文化看似为有背景的孩子们提供了更多的选择,但实际上,它给社会套上了一副隐形的枷锁。对于那些没有家庭背景的孩子来说,他们的职业发展和生活选择变得受限,因为许多机会都已经被少数特权阶层垄断。而对于那些出身优越的孩子而言,他们虽然看似拥有更多的机会,却常常无法逃脱父辈设定的期望和道路。这种被家庭背景绑架的自由,使得真正的个人意愿和梦想在社会压力面前显得微不足道。 打破“拼爹”的魔咒,需要重建公平的社会规则 要打破“拼爹”文化的桎梏,首先,制度层面必须加强对资源分配的公平性,降低低值与高值家庭背景对个人发展的影响力。其次,在经济上重塑社会公民经济,让公民真正做主人,参与到社会财富的创造、分配、消费当中去。 教育系统应提供更加多元化的支持,让所有孩子都有机会接受优质的社会素质教育,而不仅仅是那些出身优越的孩子。同时,社会舆论也应改变对成功的单一标准,鼓励多样化的价值观和成就方式。 唯有如此,我们才能为下一代创造一个更加公正和多元的社会环境,走出这场社会死亡游戏的阴影。避免陷入代际贫困和社会发展的停滞,为社会注入新的活力与希望。当“拼爹”不再是成功的必需品时,孩子们才有机会真正凭借自己的努力和才华,走出属于自己的道路,迎接一个更为广阔的未来。

單純的你需要回歸上帝的愛

單純的你需要回歸上帝的愛

Master Wonder · Oct 23, 2024

單純的你,總是想是不是我做錯了什麼才會讓對方生氣。實際上你並沒有做錯什麼,只是需要你回到上帝的身邊才會真正的快樂幸福起來。 每當我們在修行中發現更高層次的善,看到更大範圍的利他方式,就等於在心中開闢了一條新的道路。在這個過程中,我們的視野逐漸拓寬,看待世界的善與惡更加清晰,真正做到明了是非,才能做出正確的行動。這樣的善並非局限於個人利益,而是對他人和整個世界的積極關懷。通過修行,我們在點滴的反思和行動中實現了善良的昇華,也將在善行中真正做到有效關愛他人,推動社會的進步。 單純的你,總是在自我懷疑中徘徊 單純的人往往具有高度的自省能力,總是努力取悅他人,避免衝突和不快。然而,這種過度的自我反思容易讓人陷入自責的循環中,特別是在他人表現出憤怒或冷漠的時候。你可能會想:“是不是我哪裡做得不夠好?是不是我說錯了話?”這種不斷的自我懷疑不僅消耗了你的精力,也使你在關係中感到疲憊和失落。 實際上,別人的情緒和反應有時與我們無關。每個人都有自己的壓力和煩惱,並不是每一種情緒的起因都來自於他人。善於自省是一種美德,但當這種自省變得過度時,就會成為負擔,讓你總是感到自己不夠好。 回到上帝的身邊,找回真正的內心平靜 在面對人際關係的困擾和自我懷疑時,回到上帝的身邊能夠幫助你找到內心的安寧。信仰不僅僅是一種宗教儀式,更是一種心靈的寄託。當你將心中的煩惱和疑惑交託給上帝時,你會發現許多事情變得不再重要。上帝的教義傳達著愛與寬恕的精神,這能夠讓你學會寬恕自己,理解自己,並不再為他人的情緒而苦惱。 上帝的懷抱是安全的港灣,在那裡你可以盡情傾訴、釋放壓力,並得到心靈的撫慰。通過信仰,你可以重新審視自己的人生價值,不再因為他人的情緒而動搖自己的信念,獲得一種真正的心靈自由。 明白幸福的來源:不是取悅他人,而是信仰中的滿足 單純的人往往傾向於透過取悅他人來獲得幸福感,但這並不是一種可持續的幸福來源。無論我們多麼努力,總會有人因為自己的情緒或外在環境的影響而表現出不滿。而真正的幸福,不在於他人的評價,而在於我們內心的滿足與平靜。上帝的愛是無條件的,它不會因為你偶爾的失誤或別人的情緒而有所變化。在信仰中,你可以找到一種持久的、源自內心的幸福。 信仰幫助人們明白,生活中的挑戰和困境是不可避免的,我們並不能控制所有事情的發生,但我們可以控制自己如何去面對。當你將幸福的源泉寄託在信仰中,而不是依賴外界的認同時,你會發現內心的平和與滿足變得更加穩固和持久。 在上帝的懷抱中,學會接受自己的不完美 單純的人通常對自己有較高的要求,總是期望能夠完美無瑕。然而,世界上沒有人是完美的,每個人都會犯錯。上帝的教導讓我們學會接受自己的不完美,明白即便我們有缺點,也依然值得被愛和寬恕。在信仰的支持下,你可以不再苛求自己做到面面俱到,不再因別人的情緒而否定自我價值。 上帝的愛是一種無條件的接納,它讓你在面對挫折時感受到一種溫暖的力量。信仰不僅教會我們愛別人,也教會我們如何去愛自己,這種愛能夠治癒內心的創傷,幫助我們重新找回那份簡單的幸福。

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